Do you have trouble dealing with your little one? Not sure how to inspire them to behave ‘PROPERLY’? Well, I was in the same place as you are now and I completely understand that it’s not pretty.
When my son was about to enter one of the best preschools, I struggled to give him some lessons in good behavior. My husband and I sat down and brainstormed various ideas that were inspired by our observations and situations from our own childhood, to guide our son to be a preschooler.
Here are a few tips that have helped me put my son on the road to good behavior:
Dealing With Fights
Toddlers fight – Period! One minute they’ll pull each other’s hair out for their favorite spot on the school bus, the next minute they’ll be holding hands and singing rhymes about the wheels on the school on bus (pun intended)! As parents, we are often stuck dealing with their fights, things get worse when the shouting and yelling is transpiring in a public place. How we chose to resolve the fights impacts our little preschoolers in a huge way, sometimes for the best and other times for the worse.
While going through the ‘I-hate-all-my-friends’ phase, I went to my son’s preschool to take some advice from his teacher. We are lucky to have found one of the best preschools accredited by QualityKG advanced preschool accreditation. The preschool development programs introduced by QualityKG not only help parents in picking the right play school franchise or preschool for their children, it also helps in training teachers to guide parents like us through different issues.
To help me out Ms. Malini told me about a remarkable Japanese technique that many teachers in Japanese preschools use. It is called the non-intervention approach or ‘Machi No Hoiku’, in Japanese terms. In Japan, preschool teachers wait and watch the fight; they do not intervene and wait for the children to resolve the issue themselves.
This teaches children how to deal with situations and helps them realize the consequences of their actions along with the importance of apologizing.
Be a Good Example
Children look up to their parents and always try to imitate them in every way they can. So, when you get yourself in a tough situation, be cautious about what kind of body language and vocabulary you are using in front of your impressionable child. This is crucial not only for parents but also for the elder children in the house. As a responsible parent, it is your duty to become a stellar example for your toddler.
Give Them an Offer
Before you take them out to the supermarket, park or any other public place, discuss with them about how you expect them to behave and also promise them the fruits of good behavior. Show them how they will be rewarded when they behave properly. This is great when you have to head off to a public place, and you don’t have to sit and observe your toddler’s behavior.
More often than not, we give our children attention only when they do something wrong. This is not right. You need to praise your child occasionally about how good they’ve been or when they’ve done something exceptionally well. Many schools across the globe practice this effective method to inspire children to behave well.
Create a Diversion
When my son used to fuss over petty issues, I used to lose my patience. But, after getting some advice from Ms. Malini I realized his attention span is short, and I should work on diverting his attention when he is getting fussy.
A child’s behavior plays a crucial role in his or her overall development. The kind of adult, our children, grow up to be is largely affected by their behavior in these early years.
“Sow a thought, and you reap and act; Sow an act, and you reap a habit; Sow a habit, and you reap a character; Sow a character, and you reap destiny.” – Samuel Smiles